I want to sit him down and tell him that while there are (I'm sure) many fine aspects of traditional Greek culture, this ain't one of 'em. And even if he was RIGHT, he can totally be a breadwinner/etc. as a one-handed LAWYER -- it's not like he's a wallpaper hanger or something. AND even if living with a one-handed lawyer is too shameful for Martha to endure (oh, come on, man) then he at least owes her an explanation.
Plus, it doesn't seem to hold him back too cripplingly even for non-lawyer stuff, seeing as how he can take fully armed soldiers out.
But, I can understand that he's under ridiculous amounts of stress and not thinking %100 clearly right now (for SOME reason, ahem) plus he's going with strong cultural stuff for him, and losing a limb is insanely traumatic all by itself, so I'm inclined to cut him a lot of slack. But still. Those kids just need to make up/ makeout already. Here endeth the sermon.
I totally agree. Greek culture, especially the hardcore traditional one (which he channels) is very hard and unforgiving on the man when it comes to being able bodied and capable to support the family (whereas the harshness for the wife falls on chastity).
There are still things he has trouble with, and which his grandmother helps him with that he finds immesurably demeaning (e.g. tying his shoelaces) and wouldn't want Martha to witness, and those are everyday little things that remind him he's a cripple far more frequently than taking out a fully armed soldier (which he does) reminds him he can overcome that. There's a reason why he never wears shirts (buttons).
But he is someone who reviews his situation often and is man enough to admit mistakes, so I'm hopeful he'll snap out of that soon enough and go have an understanding with Martha. There IS a chance that might happen when they rescue Fotis. (this isn't a spoiler because he's rescued in the introduction XD)
On a side note, Basil feels very loved right now <3
*sigh* I can kind of understand that, that he doesn't want to be seen as helpless with some regular mundane tasks. Heck, *I* would be uncomfortable about that, to some extent, and I don't really have the cultural background that would mess with me, as far as disability is concerned.
But yeah, I think he'll come around, given some time. He's proud, yes, and he's under a lot of cultural pressure, but he's not dumb or arrogant, really, and he obviously cares about/respects Martha. And he should feel loved -- not only in a romantic sense either. A lot of people think well of him, as well they should.
(And aaaaugh, how're they going to rescue Fotis? No, no spoilers.)